Sex After Marriage
Posted by mom2mom on September 29, 2008
A few days ago I came across this interesting story:
Can 365 Nights Of Sex Bolster A Marriage? When Their Marriages Fell Into The Doldrums, Two Long-Married Couples Took Action
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2008/09/05/health/webmd/main4421065.shtml
The two couples cited in the story published books about their experiences:
365 Nights: A Memoir of Intimacy
I think the news story and two books are touching on something sorely lacking in marriages today. There are so many married people who somewhere along the line have trivialized this aspect of their relationship. As much as some people don’t want to admit it, what goes on in the bedroom *does* affect the entire relationship. Sexual intimacy is a baring and joining of bodies that should be a physical representation of the baring and joining of souls. In the Bible the mystery of Christ’s relationship with the Church (that universal body of all believers) is paralleled with the marriage relationship:
30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. (Ephesians 5:30-32, NKJV)
The Bible also says that couples should not deny one another sex, and that prolonged abstinence leaves them vulnerable to attack from Satan, the enemy of our souls:
3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (I Corinthians 7:3-5, NKJV)
Jess, on her Making Home blog, has posted extensively and thoughtfully on sex and marriage from a Biblical perspective. Just today she posted on “Sex & Spiritual Warfare,” speaking to the very thing I mentioned above about how Satan uses lack of sexual intimacy to come in and drive a wedge between husbands and wives. Another excellent post from 9/14 is “SEX: What If You Just Don’t Want To?” Her blog gets quite a bit of traffic and her posts receive lots of meaningful comments. Please be aware that this is a Christian blog that examines everything from a Biblical perspective.
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